Dr. Aline Zoldbrod is a well-known Boston-based licensed psychologist, individual and couples therapist, and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is the author of three commercially published books about sexuality and relationships. Her book, SexSmart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It has been translated into four languages and was recognized as one of the top three sex-help books of the year. She is an adjunct faculty member at the University of Michigan Sexual Health Certificate Program. You can find her at sexsmart.com.
Tags: kissing | couples therapy | marriage

What Defines a Great Kiss?

By
Wednesday, 21 November 2018 01:30 PM Current | Bio | Archive

I spend a lot of time talking about kissing with my therapy couples. Kissing can keep a relationship “simmering” — full of enticing sexual energy. But only when it’s the right kind of kiss.

What are some of the ingredients of a kiss worth making?

For one thing, it lasts at least a few seconds. Next, it has some energy behind it. Third, both of you savor it.

If your kissing has devolved into little pecks, you are missing the boat and missing the point.

Here are some of the differences:

• A peck feels perfunctory, like your partner is not really paying attention to you.

• A peck is routine, automatic, stripped of meaning.

• A peck is just a greeting, a procedural motion with as much meaning as the “Hi, how are you?” greeting you would give an acquaintance who you pass in the street, but who you don’t really intend to interact with.

• A peck is like “checking off an item on a list.”

In contrast, a good kiss is contact-full. It makes you feel loved, appreciated, and an object of desire.

With a peck, you’d never wonder what will come next.

© 2019 NewsmaxHealth. All rights reserved.

   
1Like our page
2Share
AlineZoldbrod
Kissing can keep a relationship “simmering” — full of enticing sexual energy. But only when it’s the right kind of kiss.
kissing, couples therapy, marriage
196
2018-30-21
Wednesday, 21 November 2018 01:30 PM
Newsmax Media, Inc.
 

The information presented on this website is not intended as specific medical advice and is not a substitute for professional medical treatment or diagnosis. Read Newsmax Terms and Conditions of Service.

Newsmax, Moneynews, Newsmax Health, and Independent. American. are registered trademarks of Newsmax Media, Inc. Newsmax TV, and Newsmax World are trademarks of Newsmax Media, Inc.

NEWSMAX.COM
© Newsmax Media, Inc.
All Rights Reserved