There is a simple attitude that can help you live happily: a willingness to let go of blame.

Yes, blame. Finding fault with yourself and others. Judging yourself and others. Feeling guilty about something you did.

Expecting yourself or someone else to do something a certain way — and feeling angry if you or that person fails to do so.

Comparing a behavior, person, or experience to another behavior, person or experience — and finding one lacking.

But blame isn't a big deal. It's a mental mirage. It's imagination. It's nothing more than a bad habit.

When you catch yourself playing the "blame game," remember that it is a habit you have now chosen to break.

So simply, continually, and repeatedly drop the blame in mid-thought and shift your attention to something that feels good.