Edy Nathan, MA, LCSWR, is a licensed therapist, AASECT certified sex therapist, hypnotherapist and certified EMDR practitioner with more than 20 years of experience. She has degrees from New York University and Fordham University, with post-graduate training at the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. For two seasons in 2010, she was the psychotherapist on the A&E series “Psychic Kids: Children of the Paranormal.” Her new book is It’s Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss.

Contact Edy at www.edynathan.com.

Tags: grieving | depression | obesity | frustration

Three Steps for Enduring Grief

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Thursday, 06 December 2018 01:50 PM Current | Bio | Archive

The disappointments carried within our souls are all part of a grief phenomena. We are grieving all of the time. Depression, anxiety, and even obesity can be responses to a loss, and at the same time can cause a grief reaction.

The funny thing is that no one talks about how present grief is in our daily lives. The silence occurs because very few people know how to talk about the life cycle of grief. The subject is taboo, much like the conversation about mental illness. Avoidance seems to be the best coping mechanism.

There is no beginning, middle, and end to how we grieve. Grieving is as unique as a fingerprint. And the process needs to be thought of like a dance.

The dance of your grief will sometimes feel like you are doing the twist, or the Lindy, or some disjointed movement that makes absolutely no sense. When the relationship to the grief shifts, the dance is smoother, and transforms the grief into grace.

This fresh new perspective of learning to dance with grief allows for fluid movement in and out of the different phases of grief.

Here is an exercise for enduring life’s big and little griefs:

1. Start by thinking about what or who is being grieved. What is the relationship to what or who was lost?

2. Identify the emotions that are felt in the grief presently. Write them down on a piece of paper. Some emotions that may by felt are: “I feel deadened”, “I feel void of feelings”, ”I am angry”, “I am desperate”, “I am relieved”, “I feel lost”, “I feel scared”, etc.

3. Next to each of these experiences, write down the coping skills used to handle each one. Has it worked in the past? If that skill set works, great. If not, then think about the needs associated to each of the feelings. Are the feelings only associated to the grief or have they been around long before the current situation? How are the feelings soothed? Is there a better response? Is there movement in this emotion or does it tend to paralyze? If “I feel paralyzed” is something felt, then think about what emotion would be best replace it? When replaced, even on paper, the process of changing may begin.

This exercise can help in the creation of a grief journal and allows for a shifting of how you deal with your grief. Change the apathy and frustration from passive to active. You may find that your script changes as your grief does.

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