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Doris Wild Helmering is a nationally known marriage and relationship counselor, weight loss expert, television and radio personality, and business management coach. She is author of nine books, 1,200 newspaper columns, six e-booklets, and has written for Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Self, and Scripps Howard News Service. She has been a guest on OPRAH, Good Morning America, and CNN. She received the Alumni Merit Award from St. Louis University for advancing the field of psychotherapy and the Woman of Achievement Award from Soroptimist International. She was awarded clinical status in the American Group Psychotherapy Association and the International Transactional Analysis Association.

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Tags: depression | behavior | lifting your spirits | counseling

A List to Lift Your Spirits

Doris Wild Helmering, LCSW., BCD By Friday, 16 September 2022 04:19 PM EDT Current | Bio | Archive

Focus on enjoying life. Use this psychological technique to get yourself out of the dumps.

Once in a while, even the happiest and most well-adjusted person starts to feel down in the dumps. Sometimes the cause of the person’s depression is easily pinpointed. Other times he simply seems to have lost his zest for life and what used to bring him pleasure no longer does.

It’s as if the person is sitting on the edge of the swimming pool watching all the other people do their thing, but for some reason he is unable to “get back into the water.” Things he has done in the past to make himself feel better no longer work.

When this happens, and it does to everyone from time to time, try this simple psychological technique. Write down 20 things each day that you enjoy about your life. Do this for six weeks.

Here’s a few of the items one man wrote.

  • Wearing old baggy clothes on the weekend.
  • Driving my car on a recently paved highway.
  • Running in the park.
  • M&M’s.
  • Clean socks.
  • Cruise control.
  • Watching my neighbor blow glass in his studio.
  • The sound of the tennis ball hitting the racket.
  • A good bottle of wine.
  • An Italian meal.

Here are some items from a young mother:

  • The smell of coffee brewing in the morning.
  • Nice green leaves on the trees.
  • The feel of a new book.
  • A glass of Pepsi with lots of ice cubes.
  • Sitting on my back porch early in the morning smelling the air and listening to the sounds.
  • Snuggling with my children in bed.
  • Watching my children when they aren’t aware I’m watching them.
  • Fresh sheets on the bed.
  • Putting on a newly ironed blouse.
  • Opening a new bar of soap.
  • Spraying myself with cologne.

    Now it’s your turn to make a list.

Check out Doris’ latest books, “The Boy Whose Idea Could Feed the World,” “The Parent Teacher Discussion Guide,“ and “Thin Becomes You” at Doris’ web page:

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Once in a while, even the happiest and most well-adjusted person starts to feel down in the dumps. Sometimes the cause of the person’s depression is easily pinpointed.
depression, behavior, lifting your spirits, counseling
Friday, 16 September 2022 04:19 PM
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