Doris Wild Helmering is a nationally known marriage and relationship counselor, weight loss expert, television and radio personality, and business management coach. She is author of nine books, 1,200 newspaper columns, six e-booklets, and has written for Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Self, and Scripps Howard News Service. She has been a guest on OPRAH, Good Morning America, and CNN. She received the Alumni Merit Award from St. Louis University for advancing the field of psychotherapy and the Woman of Achievement Award from Soroptimist International. She was awarded clinical status in the American Group Psychotherapy Association and the International Transactional Analysis Association.

You can visit her website at: www.doriswildhelmering.com .

Tags: counseling | discipline | weight loss

Harness Your Thoughts to Lose Weight

By Thursday, 04 June 2020 04:37 PM Current | Bio | Archive

"I'm going to stay on my diet and lose weight." How many years have you made this promise to yourself only to find that you've fallen off the weight-loss bandwagon?

The reasons for blowing your diet are plenty. Favorite excuses include, "I work hard, I deserve a good meal," "Why should I diet when no one else seems to be worrying about what they're eating?" and "I'll never be thin anyway."

"I've used those excuses and plenty of variations," says Mary, a social worker in Atlanta. "Every Monday I'd go on a diet. Sometimes I'd last for several days, sometimes a week. But then I'd be off the diet and into the potato chips. I took care of my emotional needs with food. If I was feeling lonely or had a disagreement with one of my children, I'd grab the peanut butter jar and dig in. Food was my salvation."

Most overeating is not about the belly but the brain. The true key to weight loss and a healthy body is changing the neuro-landscape of the brain. Learn to harness your thoughts and you'll change the way you behave. And you will lose weight.

Before Mary goes to a party, she says she prepares herself for battle because she knows attitude is everything and it's mind over matter. "I tell myself, 'It's only one party. I can get through it without overeating.' I also limit myself to no more than six snacks, which might include a drink, three shrimp, a piece of cheese, and a brownie. I use the acronym "HALT" on and off throughout the day, which reminds me, "Don't get too Hungry, too Angry, too Lonely, or too Tired."

When Dill needs an emotional fix, instead of turning to food she calls a friend, talks to her husband, reads, writes in her journal, takes a walk or prays. "I take heart in knowing that I'm not alone in my struggle with food," she says.

Carol of St. Louis once wore a size 24. She never weighed herself or exercised, and claims she never denied herself "anything" when it came to food. But she has now gotten on the weight-loss wagon.

Each night after watching some late night news, she calls to leave a message on her therapist's voice mail. She reports calorie intake and the minutes she spent exercising. "It makes me accountable," she says. "If I didn't have to call and report, I know I'd be cheating."

"I used to think about food and what I was going to eat. Now I think about what it's going to do to me. I've lost almost 70 pounds--and I'm determined to continue to lose."

"Last week I told my therapist that I feel so thin. She said that I wasn't. And that thinking I was thin wasn't helpful at this point in time. We had a good laugh and made a pact that a year from now I will be thin."

Are you willing to make the same pact? If so, when will you get started?

Check out Doris’ latest books, “The Boy Whose Idea Could Feed the World,” “The Parent Teacher Discussion Guide,” and “Thin Becomes You” at Doris’ web page: www.doriswildhelmering.com.

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