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Dr. Aline Zoldbrod - Sexual Health
Dr. Aline Zoldbrod is a well-known Boston-based licensed psychologist, individual and couples therapist, and an AASECT certified sex therapist. She is the author of three commercially published books about sexuality and relationships. Her book, SexSmart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual Life and What to Do About It has been translated into four languages and was recognized as one of the top three sex-help books of the year. She is an adjunct faculty member at the University of Michigan Sexual Health Certificate Program. You can find her at sexsmart.com.
Tags: valentines day | pandemic | gifts | relationships

Valentine's Day: Anxiety and Ideas

Aline Zoldbrod By Wednesday, 03 February 2021 04:17 PM Current | Bio | Archive

If the thought of surviving Valentine’s Day disturbs you, you’re not alone. And I find myself wondering if it will be more or less fraught this year, with the pandemic raging.

For the gift givers out there, I guess jewelry is always worth giving. But what kind of jewelry looks best with sweatshirts and sweatpants? Should the earrings be large enough to be seen on a Zoom square?

I am in Massachusetts, where the vaccine rollout is insanely incompetent, people are cautious, and lots of restaurants are only open for takeout. Can a fancy takeout meal eaten at home — where you’ve been holed up since last February — really feel that special? Maybe if you fill the table with candles.

I think the best idea for this strange Valentine’s Day is to come up with some quirky way to express your love. Even though I’ve gotten good presents from lovers and spouse, the Valentine’s Day gift that I have never forgotten actually came from my mother.

I can remember two-thirds of this gift. I was probably 13. My mother knocked and came into my room with three brand new, clear shoe boxes stacked up on top of each other. The first one was filled to the brim with extremely sheer panty hose. This was an incredible treat, because they were insanely flattering, but also fragile. This meant I could show off my legs in panty hose without being upset at myself if I got a run in them.

The second box was, again, filled to the brim—this time, with dried apricot halves. I have always loved apricots — and this was a year’s worth of apricot halves (at least if I had the self-control to make them last a year).

I can’t remember the third box.It was probably filled with something more typical of Valentine’s Day  —maybe chocolate. Just not as unique, not as “me.”

The point of this story is that it is the uniqueness, the thoughtfulness of the gift that says, “I love you.” And I know what brings you joy.

I still believe there is some joy to be had in this pandemic. See if you can cook up something special. 

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If the thought of surviving Valentine’s Day disturbs you, you’re not alone. And I find myself wondering if it will be more or less fraught this year, with the pandemic raging.
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