As parents know, it is nearly impossible to find a time and space to have private, fun sex without kids underfoot. In my book SexTalk, I suggest a solution for this: structuring your day and evening in order to have good sex in your house.

But I have a new resource, particularly for people who find that being outside the house and in a completely separate space from your children boosts feelings of freedom. Unfortunately, this particular solution is not going to work if you’re tight on money, but it might make sense for some — particularly with the price of restaurant meals going through the roof, and more people working from home and having the freedom to take a break during the workday.

Instead of celebrating your love with a restaurant meal, plan a particularly spicy sexual interlude.

It’s a website called Dayuse.com. On this site (I have no financial ties to them), you can find a list of hotels where you can book a few hours in the day to use all the amenities (pool, sauna, gym, clean linen on the bed, tidy room) for a few hours, and at a much lower price than if you were going to book the room for a regular stay. You can reserve a room without advance payment and cancel up to the last minute.

This is a great option because it removes the problem of babysitters cancelling at the last minute or kids getting sick. And part of the fun is the planning and the anticipation.

In addition, you don’t have to pack like you would for an overnight hotel stay. But you could bring a small bag with all the things that make sex feel special and fun, such as lubricants, massage oil, or toys.

In my experience, the knowledge that children will not be able to overhear you having sex is incredibly liberating for some people. So if you find this idea enticing, check it out. And enjoy.