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Entitled Public Breastfeeding Disregards Manners

Entitled Public Breastfeeding Disregards Manners
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Tuesday, 31 July 2018 02:07 PM Current | Bio | Archive

Once upon a time, mothers breast-fed their children in public without no problem. Why? Simple. They used discretion. How novel.

But now, an increasing number of militant moms infected with “I’ll do whatever I want, whenever I want” Entitlement Disease, think it’s perfectly acceptable to bare all, in front of everyone, without covering anything. In fact, the more people who can see “them,” the better — a classic “look at me” attention-grab.

Such a situation just occurred at the Mora public pool in Mora, Minnesota, which, predictably, has exploded into a national uproar. Upon seeing that their babies were hungry, sisters-in-law Stephanie Buchanan and Mary Davis decided against taking their other children out of the kiddie pool to have them eat lunch, play cards, use the swings, etc. (like women used to do when they had to breastfeed), and instead started breastfeeding in the pool. With nary a towel over shoulder and breast.

One might imagine the understandable pushback the women received. Another female pool patron asked that they simply cover up. They refused. Pool management requested the same, or that they move to a more suitable location — to no avail. Things grew so untenable that the police were called, who labeled it a “ruckus.”

The objective of the police officer was not to arrest anyone, nor ask the women to leave the pool, but simply to calm everyone down — but was met with an “are you kidding me?” response by Buchanan.

True, Minnesota law allows a woman to breastfeed anywhere that she and her child are permitted to be, even if — and this is codified into the law — the mother’s nipple is showing. Two things: A) the legislators who came up with that last part are truly boobs, as it wasn’t necessary to insert that into the bill (that’s why God invented blankets), and B) that law notwithstanding, one has to question if breastfeeding in a pool is what the legislators had in mind. Maybe that’s the letter of the law, but it’s undoubtedly not the spirit.

So did the pool have a right to ask them to move? Of course. Such overt breastfeeding was disturbing other patrons and was wildly inappropriate. The pool has an obligation to keep order and accommodate all its members — not just some. And how hygienic can it be to breastfeed in a pool?

Not surprisingly, Buchanan doesn’t see it that way, as she made clear on social media: “Today they called the police on me and my sister in law for nursing our babies in public ... I don’t expect any grown adult to go eat in the locker room, and I’m not going to remove the other children I have with me to go sit in the locker room also while I feed my baby, it’s absolutely disgusting and maddening that this is how this establishment treats moms!!!”

She added: “I am so sick of being shamed for what I feel is best for my child.”

Sorry, Buchanan, but wrong on all counts.

No one is asking women to go into a locker room. Prior generations never did. Instead, they followed accepted protocols — which is a fancy way of saying they sat in a chair with a blanket over breast and baby’s head. No one was offended, because moms used discretion, and guess what? They were still able to watch their other children. Life went on, and there was virtually never a problem.

But far be it that today’s coddled generation would follow suit. Nope. They have to be different. Make a statement. Establish new rules. Do it their way, precedents and feelings of others be damned.

And how exactly is asking a mother not to breastfeed openly in a pool being “shamed?” In fact, there is a high likelihood that if the women had simply covered up from the start, no one would have said anything. Disagreeing with how people reacted is one thing, but making disingenuous, off-point assertions further muddies the water.

Let’s be honest: this has nothing to do with children and breastfeeding, and everything to do with those who believe they have the “right” to do anything they want, regardless of how it affects others. Common courtesy and discretion have been unceremoniously dumped in favor of rudeness and, yes, we’ll say it again: unfettered entitlement. How ironic that the “offended class” — who feels slighted at everything they don’t agree with or like — doesn’t give a damn about offending others.

So where do things stand?

1) This incident will clearly stigmatize breastfeeding — and that’s the last thing we need, since fewer women are breastfeeding for the recommended timeframe. And that hurts children, given that science cannot duplicate the unparalleled health benefits of breastfeeding. Way to go, ladies.

2) This author is pro-individual rights, and pro-breastfeeding (though that will surely be called “mansplaining.” Whatever.) If only a modicum of common sense had been utilized, everyone could have had their cake and eaten it, too. But a caveat: freedoms are not unlimited. Just as NFL players do not have a “right” to protest during a game — that is a privilege afforded them by their employer — public breastfeeding also has its limits, even in Minnesota.

3) This situation perfectly exemplifies the “pattern of disenfranchisement” in today’s America: flaunt traditional norms out of misguided sense of entitlement, become “offended” when others legitimately call you out, create a highly public scene, post on social media in the hopes of becoming a viral sensation, stage a protest/boycott/sit-in (the women already had a “nurse-in” at the pool, with another one scheduled), and of course, threaten to sue for “discrimination.” Which the Buchanan and Davis have also done, looking for a quick payday.

It’s time to push back against those who turn things upside down simply because they are seeking fame or don’t give a hoot about manners and courtesy.

Chris Freind is an independent columnist, television commentator, and investigative reporter who operates his own news bureau, Freindly Fire Zone Media. Read more reports from Chris Freind — Click Here Now.

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