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The Monkey Wrench Millenials Bring to Matchmaking

The Monkey Wrench Millenials Bring to Matchmaking

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By Tuesday, 13 September 2016 07:06 AM Current | Bio | Archive

When Carly Spindel was just 10 years old, she registered the singles who attended the events that her matchmaking mother hosted.

Her mother, Janis Spindel of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking, is among the most widely known matchmakers. The younger Spindel is now following in her footsteps.

“I have the same talent that Janis has in matching couples plus I was raised in the business,” Spindel told Newsmax Finance. “The apple didn’t fall far from the tree so it made sense to join the family business when I realized I was good at matchmaking as well.”

Although love conquers all, times have changed and that’s where Spindel adds value.

“Mobile apps and texting have changed the dating world,” Spindel said. “People are impatient. They don’t give each other as much time as they used to.”

For one thing, texting is easier than calling and potential matches meet more quickly for a drink, taking less time to get to know each other and leaving less to the imagination.

“In this new form of dating, men have lost a little bit of chivalry and they are not as romantic,” said Spindel. “When they come to us for a match, we really encourage them to be a gentleman and go back to the old-fashioned rules of dating, which means being the man 100 percent.”

Those rules include acting like a lady, letting the man open the door for the lady, allowing the man to pursue and pay on romantic dates.

That’s because although technology has changed, biology has not, according to Sherrie Schneider, co-author with Ellen Fein of "Not Your Mother’s Rules," a book about what traditions to follow in order to catch and keep Mr. Right.

“Men are born to be the hunter and pursuer and they love a challenge in business as in romance,” Schneider told Newsmax Finance. “Otherwise they're bored! Men also have a type like a tall blonde or short brunette, which is why it's pointless for women to make the first move.”

That’s compared to the millennial way of dating, which is anything goes and at the speed of light much like instant messaging.

“We are accustomed to snapping our fingers and having things at our beck and call,” Spindel said.

Overall, however, only 10% of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking customers are millennial-aged.

“A lot of the younger clients do enjoy working with me as I'm closer to their age range and I understand the millennial form of dating but I do have a lot of clients who are in their 60s and 70s,” she said.

Spindel takes things more slowly than her millennial comrades when it comes to connecting singles for possible marriage.

A typical day starts with morning meetings over coffee with women who are potential matches for male clients who pay from $25,000 to $100,000 for their exclusive matchmaking services.

“After the authorization forms have been signed, the next step is that I head for the office to look through the database to see who I think would be a great match,” said Spindel.

Later in the afternoon, she’ll follow up with other clients about their first dates the night before. “I am on the phone counseling a lot,” she said.

Rejection of a potential match doesn’t phase her because it comes with the territory of matching two strangers.

“Someone’s trash could be your treasure and someone’s ex could be your next,” she said.
That’s how Spindel met her now fiancée.

“There was a member in our LA database who went out with a guy twice years ago and even though she didn’t work out for him, he worked for me,” Spindel said.

With that personal experience under her belt, the long haired brunette is expanding the family business by launching a course to help hopeful women find their fiancée.

“Course 526 is simple, logical and methodical,” she said. “There are fifty chapters that take a woman from point A to point B the proven way that I did it.”

Among the homework is expanding your social circle and taking part in activities that pertain to your hobbies and interests.

But for a price, Spindel and her mother will pound the pavement for you. “We’re out and about all the time for our clients,” said Spindel.  

Juliette Fairley is an author, lecturer and TV host based in New York. To read more of her work, Click Here Now.

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