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Take Time Out to Truly Live

Tuesday, 13 January 2015 05:35 PM Current | Bio | Archive

I have put aside the subject I had planned for this month because within seven days two tragedies struck close to me.
First, a 64-year-old friend of mine's night ended in tragedy. After a pleasant day with her husband, they retired for the night. Not long after, she sat straight up in bed, hugging her head and screaming. She then passed out and never regained consciousness. She remains in intensive care in an induced coma with machines running every part of her body. 
One of three aneurisms burst, and she had a stroke. There is no clue at this point whether she will live, be impaired, be in a vegetative state, or recover. It is a situation of waiting, waiting, and more waiting.  
More recently, I received a call from my son that his fiancé’s friend from childhood is brain dead. Only in her late-20s, the young woman was celebrating with friends on a trip in a motor home when it suddenly jerked off course and she fell out an unlatched door, mortally damaging her brain. They are waiting for her father to arrive to remove her from life support.
I'm probably not going to say anything you don't already know — smell the roses! — but it bears repeating because we do take life for granted.   
Glassmaking is a hobby of mine. One recent morning, upon awaking, I ran into my craft studio to start two complicated pieces. I had been fretting about them, and I had emailed two experts for advice.
After having been at the hospital to visit my comatose friend and her family, I was changed. I made an educated guess as to how I should proceed with these two pieces, telling myself, It is only glass.
That is unusual for me. I tend to obsess about making things perfect the first time. Now, however, I find I am at peace with just guessing and letting go.
That is what I'm taking from these two tragedies, that gripping too tightly to results and not allowing myself to enjoy discovery, trial-and-error, and developing experience is to try to condense life into a too-tightly wound package. I don't know if this more accepting attitude is going to last — I will probably have to remind myself that all the perfect glass artwork is not as important as enjoying the process.
Try to focus on the flow of living. Watching a movie with loved ones is living. Breaking bread with family is living. Creating beauty is living. Charitable endeavors are living. Gardening is living. Taking a hike is living. Holding the hand of someone in pain is living. Dancing is living. Exercising is living. Reading is living. And, yes, waiting to see if a loved one in ICU will live or not — that, too, is living, even though it is painful.  
We all must learn to appreciate the miracle of life.
Dr. Laura (Laura Schlessinger) is a well-known radio personality and best-selling author. She appears regularly on many television shows and in many publications. Read more reports from Dr. Laura — Click Here Now.

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