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Gay Marriage: Leave the Controversy Behind

Thursday, 12 June 2014 10:14 AM Current | Bio | Archive

Three short open letters on gay marriage, as Pennsylvania is the latest to allow it:
Dear Pennsylvania Gay Community:
Congratulations on your ability to marry.
No ifs, ands or buts about it, you got lucky, as the federal judge who overturned the state’s ban on gay marriage must have flunked his Constitutional Law class. His egregious ruling was not just legislating from the bench, but clearly unconstitutional. It’s a dangerous precedent when unelected judges with lifetime appointments unilaterally change the law simply because they don’t like it.
That said, it’s an issue whose time has come. Now that it’s here, let stop talking about it and focus on more pressing problems.
Dear Gay Marriage Haters:
If you are appalled by a bad sports team, don’t patronize them. They’ll still play, but it won’t affect you because you’ve tuned them out.
Likewise, you may not like gay marriage, but it’s time to stop obsessing about how other people live, especially when they aren’t affecting your well-being. America was founded on live-and-let-live, so get over your anger and work on your own marriages, since half end in divorce.
And finally:
Dear Governor Tom Corbett:
Are you doing everything in your power to prove me wrong? I have publicly stated that you will lose by 20 points, but after you championed the state’s ban on gay marriage for years, only to walk away at the last minute by refusing to appeal the judge’s warped jurisprudence (the same way you recently abandoned the Voter ID issue), you have seriously alienated whatever base you had.
Now, my prediction may go out the window, as your defeat may be closer to 30 points.
Since gay marriage has become part of American life, several points:
1) Hollywood, the media and certain extreme gay groups can’t have it both ways: wanting gays to be accepted as a normal part of society, yet making a huge deal every time another state permits gay marriage or a celebrity announces he or she is gay. Being gay has become so open that it is no big deal in America. Attitudes have changed for the better.
That hype is counter-productive, as heterosexuals who accept gay marriage begin to feel like the gay issue is being shoved down their throats, creating an unnecessary backlash.
A recent example was openly gay college football player Michael Sam being drafted into the NFL. A barrier was broken. Fine. Move on. But no. Sam was shown passionately kissing his boyfriend (no other players were doing the same), the media played it up ad nauseam, Oprah wanted to produce a reality show with Sam, and an NFL player was fined, suspended and made to attend sensitivity training (apparently losing freedom of speech rights) because of a tweet. Enough is enough. If normalcy and inclusion are desired, then extravagant productions have to stop.
Hypocrisy poisons goodwill. Quarterback Tim Tebow was ridiculed for his faith, told to keep it to himself. Yet openly gay athletes have their beliefs overly celebrated. Consistency produces contentment; inconsistency can become incendiary.
2) Heterosexuals criticizing gay marriage need to look in the mirror. Their divorce rate is near 50 percent, and wedlock births are a staggering 41 percent. Heterosexuals should be more concerned with fixing their own problems rather than slamming gay marriage.
3) Gays should not be afforded protections under the federal Civil Rights Act. Race and gender are completely different than sexual orientation. Doing so would lead to mammoth resentment, which we are already seeing.
In Colorado, where same-sex marriage is illegal, that state’s Civil Rights Commission found a baker guilty of discriminating against a gay couple because he refused to bake them a wedding cake for religious reasons. Now, he is being forced to change his business’ rules, send employees to anti-discrimination classes, and file quarterly reports with the government showing that he has not turned gay people away.
That “re-education camp” mentality makes criminals of religious (and law-abiding) citizens.
What’s next? Seeing Knights of Columbus hauled away in cuffs for refusing to rent their hall to a gay couple for a wedding reception?
For the most part, Americans have accepted gay marriage on its merits, with the grace and dignity that comes with being the most benevolent people in history.
Common sense, and a sense of humor, goes a long way. Let’s leave the controversy about gay marriage behind, while respecting the beliefs of those who remain opposed. And heed the tongue-in-cheek words of humorist Kinky Friedman who said of gay marriage, “I think gays have a right to be as miserable as the rest of us!”
Welcome to America’s modern family.
Chris Freind is an independent columnist, television commentator, and investigative reporter who operates his own news bureau, Freindly Fire Zone Media. Read more reports from Chris Freind — Click Here Now.

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