Relationship guru Melinda Lee has the goal of helping women over 50 become the sexiest and most alive they’ve ever felt. The author of the Sexy Over 50 book series and creator of the Spoga mind/body workouts says feeling sexy and being attractive to others begins with taking care of yourself and liking who you are.
That means devoting 10 minutes every day to the “practice of being your personal best,” such as through exercise, she tells Newsmax Health. She also recommends considering how you present yourself to the world, “this idea of how you gain self-confidence. Is it with eye contact, is it through smiling, is it the way you hold yourself with posture?”
Such activities help us feel and exude sexier energy, she explains.
The exercises focus on squeezing internal muscles and help you “exude a different energy out [so] that people all of a sudden start reacting to you in a different way than they ever have before,” she says. “And it’s these tiny little things that you can do that people won’t know what’s happening, but they’ll know that they’re attracted to you in a different way.”
How we fuel our bodies also impacts our energy level and aging process, but diets can be individual — people can react differently to different things, she notes. Our bodies change as we age and we may have acquired allergies and other sensitivities that we never suffered from before but should now consider, such as gluten or dairy. But generally speaking, most people would benefit from skipping alcohol, white sugar and flour, and not smoking, she advises.
And when it comes to dating advice for women over 50, Lee strongly recommends feeling good about who you have become, and focusing on the confidence you’re developing during your 10 minutes of daily personal best time.
“I think the most important thing about dating is to first of all feel confident in whatever age you are — not try to be a 20-something when you’re a 50- or a 60-something,” she says. “For me, sexy —and I hear this from men also — isn’t about wearing a shorter skirt, or showing more cleavage, or wearing more makeup, or any of that. It’s [about] feeling good about who you are.”
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