There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. There is compatibility and chemistry, but perfection is simply not attainable. Husbands and wives will always have little things that annoy them about one another in a marital relationship. These annoyances are pet peeves, and everybody has them. Some pet peeves can cause serious issues in a marriage that can lead to counseling or even separation and divorce.
There are certain serious pet peeves that are common in married couples including:
1. Not Listening:
Wives commonly vent to their friends about the fact that their husbands do not listen to them. It becomes an issue when the husband fails to respond to them in some way. Husband's also have the same complaint with their wives, especially when it seems they are not listening when they are trying to share their work day with them. Not listening to your spouse can lead to arguments and frequent conflict.
Nagging should not be confused with venting or the occasional complaint. Nagging involves constant complaining that turns into how you actually communicate with your spouse. This gets frustrating and annoying. It can result in blocking out conversations and can go as far as making a person apathetic. Both men and women can nag, so this isn't exclusive to wives.
3. Unclear Communication:
When a spouse is unclear in their communications it becomes an issue. Most people deal in straightforward communications over evasive communications since they aren't mind readers. Unclear communication is a pet peeve and creates confusion and conflict.
4. Breaking Promises:
Broken promises reap hurt feelings and frustration. Over time, this can build to anger and drive a wedge between a couple. Broken promises lead to mistrust and can cause insecurity. This is more common in men than women, but it can go either way depending on the personality of the person.
Honesty is a vital component in keeping a marriage happy and healthy. Lies result in resentment, especially when it happens often. Lying breeds mistrust and can create a lot of conflict in a marriage.
A happy marriage is one that maintains trust and clear and proper communication with each other. It applies to the husband and wife equally.
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