When you have a friend with borderline personality disorder, you might feel helpless. By following a few of the suggestions below, you will be able to provide your friend with some needed support and help.
1. Listen to your friend. Listening does not mean trying to fix the issues that they are talking about or to try to place blame for anything that your firend is saying. Rather, listening means just letting your friend talk about whatever is going on in their mind and whatever is bothering them. In many cases, you might want to repeat back to them your understanding of what they are saying. In this way, you are able to validate their feelings as well as give them a chance to clarify any misunderstandings.
2. Learn all you can about borderline personality disorder. By educating yourself, you will come to see why your firend is acting the way they do. You will begin to understand that your friend is not trying to act in this manner but that it is beyond their control when doing so. You will also begin to realize that the way your friend acts has nothing to do with you. Having this knowledge about your friend's disorder can go a long way toward helping your friend cope.
3. Research treatments. Many people do not understand that people with borderline personality disorder often can not pull themselves together enough to find some type of treatment. This is where you can really help your friend out. By doing the research for them and perhaps even making the calls if necessary, you can help your friend get better.
4. Do not expect a lot. This can sometimes be very hard to do if you know that your firend is capable of doing something but they are not doing it.
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